Successfully going slowly can only happen when it is done as a joint effort — when both parties' end goal is to honor God and each other.I have been separated now for almost 6 months, although I have been both emotionally and physically removed from my marriage for almost a decade. I sat across from a woman who turned my dormant heart and soul flowing again and I simply can’t explain in words the feeling – it was something I almost didn’t recognize having been so long.I also have no interest in dating others, and not because I reconnected with her – it’s just not who I am? I honestly could not wait to respond to this man, because I was jumping for joy while reading this!What I first want to say to this man is how happy I am that you are doing what you are supposed to be doing: enjoying life and love!!DO NOT envision or plan the future in your head, or plug him into your life before you know whether he is worthy of being a big part of your life.
Most of us applaud couples of any age or in any season of life who endeavor to go slowly in their relationships, because we understand that this commitment is both admirable and respectful.
Set reasonable boundaries and communicate your wishes to your partner clearly to control the pace of your relationship.
Only take things to the "next level" when you're ready. When you find the right person, they will grow to love and accept you for who you are, flaws and all.
I was…am one of those guys who simply did not want to date. I had no idea she was divorced – she had no idea that I was getting a divorce. But we were never both “available” for either of us to act on our feelings. I guess in a way, we are going to take things slow but i really don’t want to mess things up.
My kids are my focus and that was truly enough for me. We started talking, reminiscing – we clicked as if we had been the best of friends for the 20 years, even though we had not seen or even talked to each other during this time (other than the occasional Facebook like or comment). Now, we both are matured, have experienced divorce and all it’s tribulations (her more so than me) and professionals in our respective fields. Not sure I know what taking things slow truly means?