Pros: The Bible says Christians should be yoked to fellow believers.If a teen is dating another Christian, there is a greater likelihood that they will remain abstinent and supportive of one another.I spotted a photo in my newsfeed yesterday of the T-shirt a feminist father made to explain his expectations to anyone interested in dating his daughter.
As the horde of rush-hour cars streamed by, Bill reminisced about the teenage daughter he had just picked up from band practice.Tell your teen that you will talk about dating when he or she is ____ years old.Then you can sit down and have a conversation to see if your teen is ready.Usually Bill and his daughter made small talk on their brief ride home. Bill was concerned about the growing emotional distance between them. for now.” A tense silence filled the car as it eased forward and stopped in the driveway.* Bill is definitely a courageous dad, pressing into a relational hot spot where most parents fear to tread.Sure, he knew this gap was normal for teenagers and their parents. “Okay,” he replied, “I’ll take that for an answer . Although it’s uncomfortable, he’s definitely on the right track.I believe a dad has a moral obligation to protect his children from harm, to prepare them for life, and to provide wise counsel along the way — all of which calls for a hands-on approach to parenting.I agree with Feminist Father on his first two points (I don’t make the rules and You don’t make the rules).He smiled as he thought about all those after-school trips over the last few years: dance classes, piano practices, the unending cycle of softball games and tournaments.He glanced at her in the seat next to him and thought, .I'll cut you a little bit of slack because you're young and hormonal and your pre-frontal lobe isn't fully developed yet, but I'll be watching you like a hawk. And if he DOES have something to worry about, he needs to be counselled and held accountable for it, and he needs to be actively fighting that and have some success in surrendering that area to God before he starts dating someone. Yes, people are free to choose what kind of pastor they want, but that doesn't mean I have to let my daughter date someone who isn't going to be the kind of leader I think the Bible calls men to be. Of course some concession might need to be made, if the father is not a believer or if the boy comes from a single-parent family, but even if the father is not a believer he should teach his son how to treat a lady, and it's not unreasonable to expect him to hold his son accountable for his actions. And I believe God will reveal whom they should court, avoiding the heartache that comes with dating. I will talk to your dad and tell him I will hold him responsible if you don't treat my daughter like a lady. Don't profess your undying love, quote stupid love song lyrics to her, tell her you'd die for her, or feed her any other boneheaded lines that are way out of your depth as a horny little idiot. God told Hosea to marry a prostitute , Esther married King Xerxes . That brings up an whole other discussion on free will vs God's plan, which is very confusing and hard to understand, but the point is that we cannot live our lives saying "Well, God will do what He wants so I might as well let everything happen the way it happens." He expects us to follow His guidelines; otherwise he wouldn't have bothered to write them down. If there's anything I have learned it's that there has to be some kind of accountability in areas like that, otherwise it's too easy for temptation to sneak in. But you pay for meals, movies, outings, whatever else. If he understands what I'm saying, that bodes well for you. I suppose the way you see numbers 4 and 8 depend on your view of male/female roles. I think when dating isn't an option we are removing a huge temptation and actually making things much easier for them to follow Gods leading in choosing a wife.